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Tuesday, January 11, 2022

Illustrated Summary of The Chosen: Season 2, Episode 7: Reckoning

 

This episode opens with Atticus in Capernaum, demanding an audience with the Roman praetor Quintus, who addresses him as Atticus Aemilius Pulcher. Atticus says, "I come bearing intelligence." Quintus says, "I bear ears." The news is about Jesus of Nazareth, whom Quintus is seeking for questioning, as posted notices attest.
Atticus brings news about Jesus.
Jesus and  His disciples are also in Galilee, planning for a big sermon. The Lord tells them, "Everyone has a part to play in the execution of this sermon. Here's what I want each of you to understand. It's the why of this sermon. It's not that we need to make our presence felt, and it's not about the details of how we make this happen. The details matter and all of you will make sure this is executed well, but what makes this sermon so important is each person who will be there." He asks Philip what makes John the Baptizer's sermons so memorable. Philip answers, "He spoke directly to whoever was there. It was personal." Jesus agrees, but points out that since thousands will be at this sermon, He won't be directing it to one group of people over another. "But what I say will be for each and every one of them," He affirms. "They're coming because word is spreading from the signs and wonders, but what I will be giving them is far more important: truth. This will define our whole ministry, and that's what we need to focus on."
Jesus prepares with His disciples to teach truth to multitudes.
Rabbi Shmuel returns to his home synagogue in Capernaum with Yanni. He is greeted by Rabbi Yussif, who with Shmuel saw Jesus heal the paralyzed man lowered from a roof. That is just the man Shmuel wants to talk to because he wants help finding the striking Ethiopian woman who brought her paralyzed friend to be healed by Jesus after she witnessed Him heal a leper. Yussif comments, "There's no law against healing a leper." Shmuel says, "But if that healing happened on Shabbat, like the healing of the lame man at the Pool of Siloam, then a pattern has emerged." He obviously wants to use the Ethiopian woman in his attempt to charge Jesus with blasphemy. Yussif regards her as a person, not a tool, and knows her name: Tamar. Yussif reminds Shmuel that the rabbinic courts do not accept the testimony of a woman, but Shmuel hopes Tamar can lead him to the leper. Yussif sensibly asks, "Do you think anyone healed of leprosy would reveal damning information about his healer?" Yussif seems disappointed that Shmuel's time in Jerusalem studying false prophecy has led to this. 
Rabbis Shmuel, Yanni, and Yussif confer.
While Jesus and His disciples prepare for the sermon, Simon and Andrew are fishing to provide the group with food. As they talk, it is clear that Andrew is worried about the opposition Jesus is experiencing from the religious leaders. Simon reminds him, "Jesus knows how to handle Himself. He doesn't need us riding to His rescue." Andrew says they can't let what happened to John the Baptizer happen to Jesus. He doesn't want to make a scene everywhere they go, thinking that's common sense. Simon, however, tells him, "I think Jesus is more an uncommon-sense guy. Get used to different, Brother." (What Jesus said to Simon after calling Matthew the tax collector to follow Him.) Andrew retorts, "I'm being smart!" Simon tells him to leave smart to Thomas and Matthew. Andrew is surprised to hear him say something nice about Matthew. It is clear that Simon has grown spiritually, but that Andrew is crippled by worry and cannot be reasoned with now. Simon suggests they stop talking and just fish.
Simon and Andrew trying to fish in peace.
Shmuel and Yanni request an audience with Praetor Quintus to give information about Jesus of Nazareth. They don't get past the front desk. The condescending Romans there offer to take their statement, but when they hear what Shmuel says, they dismiss it as outdated intelligence, and say that Jesus will soon be in their custody. The Romans ask what they know about the Zealots, whom Shmuel and Yanni are shocked to hear associated with Jesus. Shmuel warns the Romans not to underestimate Jesus.
Rabbi Shmuel warns the Romans not to underestimate Jesus.
Atticus marches with a group of Roman soldiers led by Gaius (who was promoted to Primi because of his association with Matthew, whom he came to admire). Atticus learns that Gaius plans to act like they own the city they're heading toward, arrest their man, and be home by breakfast. Since that Galilean city, Jotapata, is  notoriously anti-Roman, Atticus suggests they go straight to Jesus's camp just south of the town. Gaius, being sensible, agrees and also realizes Atticus is with them for a particular reason not yet stated. Atticus says, "You've got good instincts, Primi. I am intrigued by your prey, Jesus of Nazareth. I saw a man who had not stood on his own two feet in half a century bounding like a boy. I watched a martyr throw down his weapon and take a knee. I saw a lunatic's eyes go clear. Jesus of Nazareth did those things. He doesn't strike me at all as threatening or scary, and that scares me. Maybe I'm just interested to know how He will take to wrist irons."
Gaius and Atticus at the head of the arrest squad.
Simon tells Andrew on the boat how he enjoys fishing because it's in their blood and they don't have to think much. Andrew frets about what happened with eating the grain on Shabbat and says something critical about Mary Magdalene. Simon asks, "Do you think you are not going to make another mistake in your life? She went through something terrifying and dealt with it the best way she knew how." Andrew says, "She should have gone to Jesus." "She knows that now," says Simon. "If you remember, He was disarming Crazy Simon from his dagger." "Oh, he's the crazy Simon?" quips Andrew. "You worked an honest trade dishonestly!" "That's how I met Jesus. Unexpected roads," observes Simon. Andrew goes back to criticizing Mary, voicing the terrible thought that the tension she caused in the group led Jesus to snap at the Pharisees. Simon warns him that's fear talking, not faith, and says, "You're the one who told me Jesus is the Messiah. Am I going to be the one to remind you now?" Andrew says, "The very fact He is the Messiah means there's going to be trouble, maybe even a war." Simon counters, "If you were building an army, would you start with Little James and Thaddaeus? You think Jesus is drawing up military plans when He goes away to desolate places?" Once again they return to fishing in silence, Andrew facing the sea and Simon the shore, where Simon soon spots the Roman soldiers closing in on their camp. He tries to brace Andrew, whose eyes grow wide with fear when he sees them himself. 
Watching the Romans close in.
On land near the water and away from the camp, Jesus spots the soldiers coming  and gestures to those with Him to be calm, sending Matthew and Philip back to the camp to tell the others, "I will be back. Keep planning for the sermon." After the soldiers encircle them with swords to the ready, Gaius steps forward, saying, "Jesus of Nazareth, You are sought for questioning by a Roman authority. Will You surrender to detainment peacefully?" Jesus answers, "Yes." John the Son of Thunder says, "Jesus, no!" Jesus quietly shushes him. "Are You armed?" asks Gaius. "No, I am not, but some of My followers are" is the reply. All the soldiers loudly draw out their swords. Gaius calmly orders, "Tell all Your followers to drop their weapons and step back 10 cubits."
Jesus's calming gesture.
The Romans draw swords.
Jesus says He will and asks if He may say goodbye to His eema. When He realizes Gaius is unaware that is the Hebrew term for mother, He gives the Latin equivalent: mater mea. Gaius says yes. Jesus embraces Mother Mary, telling her not to be afraid, and then tells James and John to do as Gaius ordered. While they obey, Gaius gestures for a couple of soldiers to apply the wrist irons on Jesus, who notices Gaius making furtive glances. He says to him, "Matthew is safe and doing well. He's back at the camp." Gaius approaches Him and says, "You all look underfed, filthy." Jesus says, "We had a bit of a hungry spell, but we have men on the water stocking us up." Gaius gets closer and says softly, "He's used to eating well!" Jesus answers quietly, "Shall we talk about this later?" Gaius turns and orders loudly, "Move out!" Atticus is the last to do so, smiling with approval over how Jesus handled Himself.
Jesus receives permission to say goodbye to His mother. He tells her not to be afraid.
Jesus reassures Gaius about Matthew, Gaius's former colleague.
Atticus is impressed by how Jesus handled Himself.
Simon and Andrew run up to the other disciples, now standing all together at their camp. Simon, slipping into bad habits, demands, "Did you do nothing while He was arrested?" James and John make it clear that is what Jesus wanted and that He was detained, not arrested. Those are meaningless words to Simon. Andrew wants to go after them, but John tells him they agreed to surrender peacefully. Andrew reminds them of what the Romans are doing to John the Baptizer. He says in a frenzied voice, "They're going north. I'll catch them in Jotapata and petition for His release!" John replies, "Andrew, He didn't ask for our help." Andrew insists He shouldn't have to, saying with disgust, "I don't recognize any of you!" His brother tries to calm him, but Andrew runs off. Philip offers to follow him, explaining he gained much experience waiting for John the Baptizer to come out of Roman jails. "Why wait?" says Simon the Zealot. "Let's break Him out." Andrew stomps back to grab his travel bag and then leaves. Philip follows, telling them, "Don't wait up."
A heated exchange of ideas.
In Jotapata Shmuel and Yanni happen to have just arrived in their search for Tamar, who they heard has been going from town to town in the north with her formerly paralyzed friend to give testimony about his healing at Jesus's command. They see it is a very intense place characterized by religious fanaticism. For a few coins, a beggar woman tells them about an Ethiopian lady who upsets men dressed like them in their black and white Pharisee robes.
Extreme Pharisees at Jotapata.
"I will be back," Jesus said, the disciples recall. Simon the Zealot suggests that maybe Jesus intended them to be the fulfillment of those words. Nathanael says disapprovingly, "Zealots, with your secret handshakes and codes!" Simon defends himself, saying, "I'm not a Zealot anymore, just zealous. There's a difference." Nathanael counters, "You just interpreted plain speech about trust and peacefulness as code for insurrection." Big James, nicknamed Son of Thunder, defends Simon, saying, "I think he's onto something. The Rabbi told us how important this sermon is. We can't let anything stop it." His brother adds, "With Zee's skills I think we could do it." Mother Mary reminds James and John to be mindful of what Jesus called them. John, missing her point, seems to think a little thunder is perfect for a time like this. Mary Magdalene says, "I think we should do what He says and wait here for Him." John scoffs about listening to the advice of someone who disappeared for two days. Ramah says, "How dare you!" Thomas says, "Don't talk to her like that!" John says something nasty about Thomas. Mother Mary says, "Boys! You're acting like children." Matthew speaks up: "Nathanael's right: the words were plain." Mary Magdalene adds, "I made a mistake leaving camp. I was wrong. I'm sorry, I relied on my own observation, my own understanding so heavily. Jesus said He will be back." 
Learning to take Jesus at His Word.
When Andrew and Philip arrive at Jotapata, Andrew is unnerved by seeing Pharisees and others swaying back and forth, chanting, and seeming oblivious to their surroundings. Philip says, "Don't worry about them. They're here for God or to preen. You don't get in the way of either." Andrew shakes his head at these people, commenting, "And they say we're extreme!" As they head toward the jail, they hear a woman clearly giving glory to God that her friend is able to stand before the crowd they are addressing. Philip says approvingly, "Now that's more like it!" Andrew takes a closer look and recognizes Tamar and the once-paralyzed man lowered through the roof Jesus healed. Someone in the crowd shouts out, "I hear He consorts with Samaritans." Tamar says, "I cannot personally confirm that, but it wouldn't surprise me." The healed man says, "Who cares who He ministers to? I was paralyzed for 23 years and I stand talking to you on two feet!" A Pharisee asks, "Who on earth can claim authority on earth to forgive sins?" Tamar answers, "The kind of Person who can tell a paralyzed man to stand, and the miracle happened in front of dozens of witnesses!" Someone says, "It could be witchcraft or sorcery!" The healed man replies, "Witches and sorcerers require payment for their services, and He gave freely." Someone wants to know why He is in hiding. Tamar says, "We don't know. He told the leper on the road to keep it a secret." When asked why she is telling this, Tamar replies, "He gave us no such order to remain silent. I believe He will make Himself more known soon."
Andrew sees familiar faces.
Many different people listen to their testimony.
Andrew hops onto their platform. Tamar and her friend instantly recognize him. He persuades them to speak with him in private, but the crowd seems sorry to see them go. Andrew, still filled with anxiety, says, "You must stop drawing attention to Jesus of Nazareth!" Tamar rightly responds, "How can we not speak of what we have seen? How can you remain silent?" "The Romans!" blurts out Andrew, but he chokes on tears. Philip leads them all to a better location to tell what happened.
Talking privately.
Jesus is led by Gaius and Atticus before Praetor Quintus, who asks, "Did He resist?" No, answers Atticus. "His followers?" asks Quintus. "Peaceful and compliant," responds Gaius. After dismissing Gaius and inviting Jesus to sit, Quintus says with glee, "Jesus of Nazareth, we finally meet!" "Here I am," says Jesus. Quintus remarks that he thought Jesus would be taller and more crazy looking with wild hair and animal skins. "Glad I could disappoint you," responds Jesus. Quintus says, "The first story I heard about you I didn't believe it." "That's usually how it goes," says Jesus. Quintus tells Atticus it was about an impossibly large catch of fish, and then asks Jesus if He has ever visited the Far East. Jesus answers, "I have received visitors from there, but have never been there myself." Quintus tells Him about people there who eat their fish raw, but spit out the bones, and uses that as an analogy to describe how he views Jesus and His ministry. That large catch of fish allowed a large tax debt to be settled that otherwise could have resulted in his demotion. Quintus regards that as flesh, but he regards as bones the healing of the paralytic, which led to crowd-control problems that damaged his reputation, and His calling Matthew away from being a Roman tax collector. He goes on to say that Atticus, whom he describes as the most tenured of the   Cohorte Urbanae, personally witnessed Jesus disarm a Zealot sicarii, a feat Quintus declares is flesh. Jesus says, "Sorry to cause so much confusion for you over flesh and bone." Quintus summarizes, "You seem to be splitting your time between creating headaches for Rome and victories we could not achieve ourselves."
Atticus adds, "You have doubled Your followers since leaving Capernaum, yet You returned a violent man who had been terrorizing Jericho to his senses." Quintus says to Jesus, "I don't know what to make of You." "That's going to be a lot of people's problem with Me," says Jesus. "No more bones, Jesus," says Quintus. "No more draining my talent pool, creating spectacles and crowds. No more meddling." Jesus answers, "I cannot promise any of these things." "Then I cannot promise You won't stop breathing," says Quintus. "Well, it sounds like we're clear on what we can and cannot promise," responds Jesus. Quintus laughs and says, "Jesus of Nazareth, I like You! Just don't make me kill you." Jesus says, "I won't make you do anything, but My Father, on the other hand—" Quintus cuts Him off, wanting to end on a high note by declaring that he thinks they have come to an understanding. He tells Jesus He is free to go. As Jesus stands and turns to leave, Quintus adds, "Sorry about Your cousin, but marching into Herod's court and moralizing was not a very wise or brave thing to do. Jesus responds, "He knew what he was getting himself into." "Do You know what You're getting Yourself into?" asks Quintus. Jesus merely says, "It was a privilege to speak with you today, Quintus." When Jesus leaves, Quintus laughs, saying that was fun and that he thinks Jesus will be a pleasant diversion for the people. Atticus laughs too, but obviously at Quintus for underestimating Jesus. 
Jesus is no threat to Rome.
Shmuel and Yanni receive word in Jotapata from people who just heard the testimony of the Ethiopian woman and her paralyzed friend whom Jesus healed. As they learn what direction those two were headed, they are stopped by Madai and Lamech from the Wadi Qelt synagogue, who compare notes with them about Jesus's Sabbath healings and invoking of Messianic titles.
Religious officials comparing notes about Jesus's Shabbat healings.
Meanwhile, Andrew is still with Tamar the Ethiopian and her friend in Jotapata, discussing what Jesus has done since  they last saw Him. Andrew tells Tamar it is dangerous to speak openly of Jesus now, and receives affirmation from a surprising source: Rabbi Yussif from Capernaum, who came to warn Tamar that Shmuel is seeking to twist her testimony to discredit Jesus as a false prophet. He apologizes to Andrew for speaking harshly to him at the feast at Matthew's house, and explains that he knows his master, Rabbi Nicodemus, saw something remarkable in their Master, Jesus. Yussif states, "Rabbi Shmuel is threatened by what he can't comprehend. Worse, Shmuel is ambitious. He does not honor Nicodemus's teaching." He acknowledges the healing of the paralyzed man and urges him to leave immediately to avoid being trapped by Shmuel. The man agrees to leave and lay low, but expresses the hope that things don't stay quiet. Philip arrives to report that Jesus is not in the Roman jail. He and Andrew take Tamar with them to join Jesus's followers.
Rabbi Yussif gives a discrete warning to help Jesus and His disciples.

Back at the disciples' camp at night, Simon the Zealot is the first to spot Jesus's approach. He wants to know if Jesus is hurt. The other Simon asks if Jesus is safe and if anyone followed Him. Jesus greets His mother and answers, "Yes, I'm safe and they just wanted to talk." Matthew says, "I'm very happy!" Jesus chuckles and says, "I'm glad, Matthew. The Romans don't find Me much of a threat, which is fine." Zee says, "Hopefully that will change soon." John asks, "So what were You doing out here?" "Praying, John," answers Jesus. "Remember, there's a big event to prepare for." Big James respectfully expresses dismay that Jesus didn't tell them first He was back.
Jesus returns, just as He said.
Jesus says, "Did I not tell you that I would be back and to keep planning? You're all going to have to learn how to do this regardless of what's happening, good or bad. Things are only going to get more difficult. You can't just shut down when you're fearful. And what are you going to do when I'm no longer here?" John and Simon express that they're all still figuring this out, but that they can do better. John asks about teaching them how to pray, like John the Baptizer did with his students. Big James adds, "I'd like to know more about what You're saying when You're out alone." Jesus says in a glad tone, "Now you're behaving like true students! This is what I like to see. Prayer is the first step in getting the mind and the heart right. That's why you see Me go to it so often." One of them says, "So teach us, please, to pray as You do." "When we pray," Jesus explains, "we want to first start with acknowledging our Father in heaven and His greatness, so you can say, 'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your name.' And we always want to be sure to do God's will and not our own, so we say, 'Your Kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.'"
Jesus happily obliges when His disciples ask Him how to pray.
Hours later, Jesus wakes up Matthew and asks him to come with Him, explaining, "I've been forming fragments of teaching in My mind for some months now in preparation for the sermon. I'm ready to organize them." Matthew says he will gather his writing materials, but then adds, "You've just returned from detention. Will these teachings make things worse?" Jesus says, "I'm here to make things better, not worse, Matthew." Matthew explains, "What I mean is for all of us who love You." Jesus says, "No promises." "It must be tonight?" asks Matthew. Jesus states, "The time has come."
Jesus tells Matthew it's time to organize the Sermon on the Mount in writing.




Thursday, November 22, 2012

Illustrated Summary of Different by Design by John MacArthur (on Men and Women)

"The fact that men and women are different by design is no surprise to those who are committed to reality or familiar with the Bible. It is a great surprise, however, to many who, over several decades, have engineered, vigorously endorsed, or passively succumbed to the social experiments that deny or attempt to alter that design." So begins this book by Pastor John MacArthur that I had the privilege of editing shortly before my first child was born. It helped me think through what I wanted to emphasize to my children about their masculinity or femininity. Some of these introductory illustrations on the relevance of the topic are a few decades old, but just as timely as ever:


An Always Timely Topic

Item: "Many scientists rely on elaborately complex and costly equipment to probe the mysteries confronting humankind. Not Melissa Hines. The UCLA behavioral scientist is hoping to solve one of life's oldest riddles with a toybox full of police cars, Lincoln Logs, and Barbie dolls....Hines and her colleagues have tried to determine the origins of gender differences by capturing on videotape the squeals of delight, furrows of concentration and myriad decisions that children from 2 1/2 to 8 make while playing. Although both sexes play with all the toys available in Hines' laboratory, her work confirms what most parents (and more than a few aunts, uncles and nursery-school teachers) already know. As a group, the boys favor sports cars, fire trucks, and Lincoln Logs, while the girls are drawn more often to dolls and kitchen toys.... During the feminist revolution of the 1970s, talk of inborn differences in the behavior of men and women was distinctly unfashionable, even taboo....Once sexism was abolished, so the argument ran, the world would become a perfectly equitable, androgynous place, aside from a few anatomical details. but biology has a funny way of confounding expectations. Rather than disappear, the evidence for innate sexual differences only began to mount....Another generation of parents discovered that, despite their best efforts to give baseballs to their daughters and sewing kits to their sons, girls still flocked to dollhouses while boys clambered into tree forts" (Time magazine cover story, "Sizing Up the Sexes," Christine Gorman, 20 January 1992).  


Item: A book on brain physiology, provocatively titled, Brain Sex: The Real Difference Between Men and Women, details the empirical evidence for innate differences between the sexes. Anne Moir acquired her interest in the topic as a student at Oxford University working for her doctorate in genetics amid the radical feminist atmosphere of the '70s. She noticed that some scientists seemed afraid of their discoveries about male/female differences, downplaying their significance over concern about political correctness. But Dr. Moir followed the mounting evidence through the years and shared her findings with reporter David Jessel. The book that emerged from their joint effort has this electrifying introduction: "Men are different from women....To maintain that they are the same in aptitude, skill or behaviour is to build a society based on a biological and scientific lie. The sexes are different because their brains are different. The brain, the chief administrative and emotional organ of life, is differently constructed in men and in women; it processes information in a different way, which results in different perceptions, priorities and behaviour....Doctors, scientists, psychologists and sociologists, working apart, have produced a body of findings which, taken together, paints a remarkably consistent picture. And the picture is one of startling sexual asymmetry....It is time to explode the social myth that men and women are virtually interchangeable, all things being equal. All things are not equal" (Dell, 1991). 


Item: Dr. Deborah Tannen, a linguist, wrote a book with one chapter out of ten on gender differences, but 90 percent of the requests she received for interviews, articles, and lectures were from people wanting to know more about communication variations between men and women. She decided she wanted to learn more so she wrote an entire book on the subject that remained on bestseller lists for years, saying, "I am joining the growing dialogue on gender and language because the risk of ignoring differences is greater than the danger of naming them. Sweeping something big under the rug doesn't make it go away; it trips you up and sends you sprawling....Pretending that women and men are the same hurts women, because the ways they are treated are based on the norms for men. It also hurts men who, with good intentions, speak to women as they would to men, and are nonplussed when their words don't work as they expected, or even spark resentment and anger....If we recognize and understand the differences between us, we can take them into account, adjust to, and learn from each others' styles" (Ballantine, 1991).

Item: One young single mother wrote a book asserting that the feminist movement has, first of all, failed women and children—with men not far behind. She points out that "riffling through the pages of your daughters' school books, what you won't see...is a single image celebrating the work women do as wives and mothers. That information...is carefully and systematically expunged from the official cultural record. Sexual equality is our culture's rationale for denying the existence of specifically female contributions, an excuse for withdrawing social approval and protection when women refuse to behave just like men.... When a culture begins to promote false conceptions of sex, gender, and family, the reverberations are felt immediately, penetrating deep into the least public and most intimate realms of our daily lives" (Maggie Gallagher, Enemies of Eros [Chicago: Bonus, 1989]). An article in The Atlantic Monthly described those reverberations in chilling detail. Its conclusion? That "over the past two and a half decades Americans have been conducting what is tantamount to a vast natural experiment in family life....This is the first generation in the nation's history to do worse psychologically, socially, and economically than its parents" (Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, "Dan Quayle Was Right" [April 1993]).

What Does the Bible Say About Men and Women?

That is the crucial question John MacArthur answers in Different by Design, later retitled, Divine Design (order information is at the end of this post). He explains simply and directly the key biblical passages describing what it means to be a man or woman from God's perspective, and the grand design and fulfillment that await those who embrace the truth. Any examination of the role of men and women in God's design must begin with Genesis 1-3.

In the Beginning

Genesis 1:27-28 states, "God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. And God blessed them; and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.'" Notice that God created both man and woman in His image (that is, possessing intellect, emotions, and will) to serve as co-regents over the earth and its creatures.

Genesis 2:7 describes the creation of man in greater detail: "The Lord God formed man of dust from the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being." After placing man in the Garden of Eden, commanding him to cultivate it and not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him" (2:18). So He created Eve to assist Adam in ruling an undefiled world: "The Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh at that place. And the Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man" (2:21-22). Upon meeting his wife, awestruck Adam declared, "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man" (2:23). Since man was created first, he was given headship over his wife and creation. The fact that Adam named Eve manifested his authority over her—from ancient times naming has been a privilege bestowed on those with authority—but their original relationship was so pure and perfect that his headship over her was a manifestation of his consuming love for her, and her submission to him a manifestation of her consuming love for him. Each lived for the other in perfect fulfillment of their created purpose under God's perfect provision and care.

But something terrible happened to God's beautiful design. Genesis 3 describes the first sin on earth. Bypassing the leadership of the man, the fallen angel Satan, in the form of a serpent, went after the woman. He succeeded in enticing her to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. She in turn persuaded Adam to commit the same sin. Eve sinned not only in disobeying God's specific command but also in acting independently of her husband by failing to consult him about the serpent's temptation. Adam sinned not only by disobeying God's command but also by succumbing to Eve's usurpation of his leadership, thus failing to exercise his God-given authority. Both the man and the woman twisted God's plan for their relationship, reversing their roles, and brought into the world death, pain in childbearing, strenuous work, and strife between the sexes—between men and women in general.


The Redeemer Will Crush the Serpent
With this Fall of mankind came the distortion of woman's proper submissiveness and of man's proper authority. Women have a sinful inclination to usurp their man's authority and men have a sinful inclination to put women under their feet. The unredeemed nature of both men and women is self-preoccupied and self serving, characteristics that can only destroy rather than support harmonious relationships. But in Genesis 3 God also tells of a Redeemer to come who will reverse the cursed effects of the Fall. That Redeemer is the Lord Jesus Christ.


The Redeemer to the Rescue
 
The New Testament declares that "Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ" (1 Corinthians 11:3). If Christ, the Son of God or God the Son, had not submitted to the will of God the Father, redemption for mankind would have been impossible, and we would be lost forever. If individuals do not submit to Christ as Savior and Lord, they will be doomed for rejecting God's gracious provision. And if a wife does not submit to her husband, the family and society as a whole will be harmed. Whether on a divine or human scale, submission and authority are indispensable elements in God's order and design. Notice the word imbedded in Authority: let it remind you that God is the Author of all creation so He naturally has the Author or Sovereign's right to determine how His creation best operates.

Before instructing believers in Christ on how authority and submission should characterize their specific relationships, the Apostle Paul emphasizes the general attitude: "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ" (Ephesians 5:21). That translates a military term meaning "to arrange" or "rank under." The Apostle Peter says similarly, "Submit yourselves for the Lord's sake to every human institution" (1 Peter 2:13). A nation cannot function without rulers, soldiers, police and others in leadership. That's not to say they're inherently superior to other citizens, but leaders are necessary for maintaining law and order to prevent the nation from falling into a state of anarchy. In the home, the smallest unit of human society, the same principle applies. Even a small household cannot function if each member fully demands and expresses his or her own will. The system of authority God has ordained for the family is the headship of husbands over wives and of parents over children.

Relationships Set Right

Here's the divine mandate: "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the Church, His Body, and is Himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,  that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,  so that He might present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.  In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,  because we are members of His Body.  'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.'  This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the Church.  However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
 

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  'Honor your father and mother' (this is the first Commandment with a promise),  'that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.'  Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22—6:4).

The majority of this crucial text addresses husbands, who are to treat their wives as equals, willingly fulfilling their God-given responsibilities of caring, protecting, and providing for them. Likewise wives fulfill their God-given responsibility when they submit willingly to their own husbands. That reflects not only the depth of intimacy and vitality in their relationship, but also the sense of ownership a wife has for her husband. As Paul says elsewhere, "Let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does" (1 Corinthians 7:2-4). The reason a wife is to submit to her husband is "the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the Church" (Ephesians 5:23). The head gives the orders, the body doesn't. When a physical body responds appropriately to the mind, it is well coordinated. A wife who responds willingly and lovingly honors God, her husband, her family, her church, and herself. Additionally, she becomes a beautiful testimony of the Lord before the watching world.


The wife's submission requires intelligent participation for her to be the ideal complement and helper to her mate. One godly wife, reflecting on her favorite biblical example of submission, wrote this: "The virgin Mary's answer hold no hesitation about risks or losses or the interruption of her own plans. It is an utter and unconditional self-giving: 'I am the Lord's servant....May it be to me as you have said' (Luke 1:38). This is what I understand to be the essence of femininity. It means surrender. Think of a bride. She surrenders her independence, her name, her destiny, her will, herself to the bridegroom in marriage....The gentle and quiet spirit of which Peter speaks, calling it 'of great worth in God's sight' (1 Peter 3:4), is the true femininity, which found its epitome in Mary" (Elisabeth Elliot, "The Essence of Femininity" in Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, edited by John Piper [Crossway, 1991]).

The Lord's pattern of love for His Church is the husband's pattern of love for his wife: a Sacrificial, Purifying, Caring, and Unbreakable Love. Love is a choice we make; it is an act of our will as well as our heart. Husbands, when you put your own likes, desires, opinions, preferences, and welfare aside to please your wife and meet her needs, then you are truly dying to self to live for your wife in a Christlike manner.


Christ loved the church sacrificially with this goal in mind: "That He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,  so that He might present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish" (Ephesians 5:26-27). That is a purifying love, teaching us this basic truth: When you love someone, that person's purity is your goal. You can't love a person and at the same time want to defile him or her.



Similarly, when your body has needs, you meet them. Your wife also has needs, and you're to care for them just as diligently. When she needs strength, give her strength. When she needs encouragement, give her that. Whatever she needs, you are obligated to supply as best you can. Don't forget: You're her divinely ordained provider and protector, but should that responsibility ever overwhelm you, recall that God is your Provider and Protector. He will help you do all that He requires.

"A man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh," says Paul in Ephesians 5, quoting Genesis 2 as an echo of Jesus, who concluded the matter by saying, "Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate" or divorce (Matthew 19:6). God's ideal for marriage is that it be indivisible. As Christ is one with His church, husbands are one with their wives. Your marriage is either a symbol or a denial of Christ and His Church.

Home Is Where the Heart Is
 

A special ministry of mature women in the Church  is to "encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the Word of God will not be dishonored" (Titus 2:4-5). God has designed women with a need for the protection that a godly husband and home provides. He ordains men to take the lead in providing a haven for their wives, who in turn  provide a haven for their husbands and children, and a place of hospitality for others.

No other passage of Scripture gives us the model of the worker at home better than Proverbs 31. Here we see a dynamic, intelligent woman hard at work:
 10 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.
 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
 12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
 13 She looks for wool and flax and works with her hands in delight.
 14 She is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar.
 15 She rises also while it is still night and gives food to her household and portions to her maidens.
 16 She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard.
 17 She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
 18 She senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night.
 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle.
 20 She extends her hand to the poor, and she stretches out her hands to the needy.
 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household, for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
 22 She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.
 23 Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.
 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen.
 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future.
 26 She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
 27 She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
 28 Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
 29 "Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all."
 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
 31 Give her the product of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.


A godly homemaker serves as an economist, administrator, and business manager to analyze available products, exercise wisdom and foresight to make intelligent purchases, and assign tasks to her household labor force. At the same time she happily fulfills her responsibilities as a wife to her husband and provides tender, loving care to all her children and the needy. This noble work is not emphasized or appreciated to the degree it should be, but that will turn around when single and married men and women embrace instead of chafe against God's ideal of young women being "workers at home," joyfully making whatever sacrifices are necessary at the appropriate time in their lives, and encouraging others to do the same.

Men and Women in the Church

Scripture is timeless, thus it is contemporary. Just as God Himself never changes, neither does His Word. It is as active and living today as it was 2,000 years ago. As we move through these  instructions in 1 Timothy 2 to men and women in the Church, notice how they are a means of great blessing and not a declaration of second-class status:
 8 I want the men in every place to pray, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and dissension.
 9 Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments,
 10 but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.
 11 A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.
 12 But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.
 13 For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve.
 14 And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
 15 But women will be preserved through the bearing of children if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint.


Jesus Commends the Learner
God intends for wise, elder men to lead when the Church meets for corporate worship. The prayers of those men will be effective when they are characterized by holy lives. Women who have committed themselves to pursuing godliness demonstrate that not only by sensitive choices regarding their appearance, but also by their kind, righteous deeds. They are not to be the public teachers when the Church assembles (yet that doesn't forbid them from teaching in other appropriate circumstances), but women are to be avid learners. When two sisters named Mary and Martha invited Jesus into their home, Mary "sat at Jesus' feet and heard His Word. But Martha was distracted with much serving so she said, 'Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.' But Jesus said to her, 'Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her'" (Luke 10:39-42).

A woman's subordinate role did not result after the Fall as a cultural, chauvinistic corruption of God's perfect design. Rather, God established her role as part of His original creation, making woman after man to be his suitable companion and helper. By nature Eve was not suited to assume the position of ultimate responsibility. Even though a woman bears the stigma of being the initial instrument who led the human race into sin, women may be preserved or freed from that stigma by raising a generation of godly children. This passage of Scripture is speaking in general terms; God does not want all women to be married, let alone bear children, but most women will. Because mothers have a unique bond and intimacy with their children, and spend far more time with them than do fathers, they have a far greater influence in their lives and thus a unique responsibility and opportunity to lead them out of sin to godliness. The godly appearance, demeanor, and behavior commanded of believing women in the Church is motivated by the promise of deliverance from any inferior status and the joy of raising godly children.

Men and women are different by God's design, and the ultimate purpose for that design displays the beauty and order in inherent in God's creation. To do anything less than maintain His order is to bring reproach on His name. May we who love Christ be "blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation," among whom we appear as lights in the world (Philippians 2:15)!

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